There's lots out there on the red flags to
look out for when dating someone new. We've written about them. There are
Reddit threads dedicated to them. There are even TED talks on the
subject. But what about all the ways you know someone's the real deal? When all
signs point to 'go'? There's not as much information out there on that,
and if there is, it's more like 'they haven't just slept with your best friend'
or 'you justknow'.
Well, in case you're prone to chronic indecision,
we spotted this fantasticReddit thread on
the early date signs that the person is worth keeping around for a while. These
are the green flags that proved to lead to happy and healthy relationships,
ranked from the most upvoted to the least.
Actually Listening
When I first started dating my husband I was
surprised at how often he'd reference something I'd told him days or weeks
earlier. The motherfucker was actually listening when I spoke.
It blew my mind. -MovieGirl424
Fairly certain this is the only reason my wife
married me. She is out of my league in every way possible. But goddammit I
listen. -NewSicknessNewDay
Animal Lovin'
When we were first dating,
I came into the room one day and discovered my now-husband cradling my cat and
cooing to him over what a big, handsome boy he is. He (boyfriend/husband) was
embarrassed but shook it off. Now that I think about it the cat was probably a
little embarrassed as well. -KvetchBetch
Manners
I always notice when the other person is just as
polite to complete strangers as they are to me. -PandorasTrunk
My boyfriend is super friendly to servers when we
go out and I noticed it right away. Our first date I honestly wasn't really
interested because from the first impression he seemed like one of those
self centered arrogant people. I'm glad I went with him to dinner that night or
we wouldn't be here now. He always talks so politely to servers and always uses
their name. I have a second job serving and love it when customers treat me the
way he does. -Makovu
Textiquette
One of many, but NOT playing the texting
game. When my current boyfriend and I were still just
"talking" and right up to our first dates, I couldn't believe he'd
actually respond immediately and carry on actual conversations.
I'd never been involved with someone new I felt
like I could just contact whenever for no reason without it being too forward.
-what_a_cat_astrophe
Thoughtfulness
My SO recently bought me a book that I couldn't
even remember I wanted. He saw me check the price at the bookstore and put it
back, then went back in a few days later and bought it for me. -msstark
Positivity
Positive talking points. They talk about things
they like instead of opening conversations by talking about
things they don't like. Positive vs negative conversation is a big thing. -eai36
This is a good one! I've noticed that my worst dates have
tended to be with people who try to bond over the things they
dislike/hate/oppose rather than like/love/are passionate about. -todayonbloopers
Close
Friends
Having long-term close friends, and good
female friends, and treats me like a friend rather than someone
he's trying to make it with.
When I began dating my boyfriend, he introduced me
to his closest friends, about 10 of them that he had known since he was a
little kid. Showed me that obviously he's a pretty good person if all these
people have stuck around with him for nearly 20 years, and he keeps people
close through hard times or distance. -perfectdrug659
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Source:askmen.com
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